Review: Well, That Escalated Quickly by Franchesca Ramsey

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Genre: Nonfiction

Format: Hardback Book

In case you don’t know, Franchesca Ramsey is a YouTube personality and host of the popular MTV show Decoded, which breaks down racial issues in a quick, easy-to-understand way with lots of colorful graphics and sound effects. I picked up this book because I’m a fan of Decoded, and because I liked the “memoirs and mistakes” portion of the title. I’ve certainly made lots of mistakes, both in real life and online, and I was intrigued that someone who is perceived as a fearless leader of social justice warriors not only made mistakes, but was going to confess to them and (hopefully) disclose how to bounce back from them.

The book is mainly a reflection on Ramsey’s career, which started out on YouTube and evolved into writing, producing, and appearing on shows like The Nightly Show and Decoded. The parts I appreciated the most were her frank, honest discussions of her mistakes, spanning interviews and YouTube videos to podcasts and Facebook discussions, especially the sobbing mess she became after Black Twitter came for her. While I would never wish an internet dragging on anyone, having been dragged myself, it made me feel a lot better that even really intelligent, thoughtful, compassionate people like Ramsey occasionally get it wrong and then, whether they have anxiety disorders or not, crumble into a hot mess when they’re attacked for it (thought I suspect her recovery time was probably a lot shorter than mine. Thanks anxiety).

I also especially appreciated her chapter on Calling In. Ramsey makes a compelling case for Calling In instead of Calling Out, which is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. The act of Calling Out certainly creates an outraged stir, but it can also ruin careers, or drive people (like me) off the internet. Sometimes, Calling Out is appropriate, as with large companies (and conventions, *ahem Worldcon ahem*) that are prone to ignoring individual marginalized voices. And I’d argue it’s probably the way to go for violent hate speech, as well, because it’s probably not safe to engage one-on-one with someone who wants you to see you dead. But when dealing with well-meaning individuals who have made a mistake, Ramsey urges us to try Calling In instead, before resorting to public humiliation. Essentially, Calling In involves reaching out compassionately one-on-one to the individual who has offended, and providing them with resources and advice. It requires a little more personal effort–you can’t just retweet a call for the person’s head and be done with the conversation–but it’s ultimately more rewarding in the long term, creating more allies rather than alienating them, and helping people to grow and become better instead of bitter. Obviously we don’t all have the spoons to Call In all the time, but I think it’s a good goal. Compassion should always be at the forefront of our minds, and it’s too easy to forget that when the Horn of Gondor has been sounded and the troops are rallying for yet another call out campaign.

At the end of the book, Ramsey also has a couple of chapters with resources, including book titles she recommends for further reading, snappy and appropriate comebacks for passive-aggressive or microaggressive comments you might run into on the internet or in real life, and a handy list of terms that’s useful for anyone who is just getting started on their social justice journey.

All in all this is a very informative, intelligent, funny, and compassionate book that I would recommend to anyone who exists on the internet, especially if you’re a creative.

5/5 tragic YouTube wigs

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What To Do If You Can’t Get An MFA

(If you find this post helpful or you enjoy it, please consider buying my new book, or backing me on Patreon for just $1/month, where you can read more posts like these as well as short fiction. Thank you!)
If you’re anything like me, you desperately want an MFA in Popular Fiction, but the possibility is out of your reach. You may have a disability, children, a more-than-full-time-job, a heap of student loan debt, or just a really busy yak-shaving schedule. (I don’t know your life, and I don’t judge.) Increasingly, even people with MFA’s are advising beginner and intermediate writers alike not to bother with getting one. “It’s simply not worth the crushing debt and limited job prospects,” those handsome and talented people with MFA’s tell you as they twirl their mustaches and snort cocaine off their latest bestsellers. 
So, then, what’s a sad little wannabe writer to do? Here are f̶i̶v̶e̶ ̶s̶i̶x̶ a bunch of alternatives to obtaining an MFA:
1. Critique Group
Price: free
A critique group is generally made up of writers at around the same skill level/point in their career development. Usually they also write in the same genre(s). You can use sites like MeetUp and Facebook to find critique groups, but I’ve been more successful meeting people in person at conventions (more on that below). A critique group not only gives you feedback on your writing that can be invaluable, but also teaches you a lot through the process of critiquing other writers’ work. And it can give you a solid group of people with whom to share the joys and frustrations of the writing life, which you’re going to need even more than a writer’s traditional lifetime supply of Jack Daniels.
2. Conventions & Conferences
Price: $100+
There are dozens of literary conventions and conferences every year all over the world for every genre you can think of. Cons are a great place to learn about writing, network with other writers, and get the latest gossip. Cost varies depending upon how far you’re traveling, how many people you’re willing to bunk with, and whether or not you volunteer for the convention to lower the cost of your badge. There’s a handy list of conventions here, or you can follow your favorite authors on Twitter to see what conventions they’re attending. I highly recommend the GenCon Writer’s Symposium
3. Writer’s Workshops
Price: $5,000+
World-renowned workshops for speculative fiction are so numerous these days you can’t swing a pencil without hitting a writer who has  “Clarion Class of 2015” in their email signature. Workshops are expensive compared to other options, and the price doesn’t include travel expenses, but hey, they’re considerably cheaper than getting an MFA. They offer more small-group and one-on-one attention from professional writers, editors, and agents than attending a con, plus the bonding experience of getting matching VIABLE PARADISE 4EVAH tattoos with your fellow students. Some workshops offer scholarships to offset the costs. You can find a list of workshops on the SFWA website
4. Online classes
Price: $150+
Several places like LitReactor and Writer’s Digest University offer online classes with professional instructors that generally last a few weeks. Some class topics are incredibly broad (HOW TO NOVEL) while others are much more tailored (how to use your experience shaving yaks to write a transformative personal essay). They usually offer the opportunity to receive feedback on your work from both peers and an experienced professional, as well as lectures and required reading or suggestions for further reading. You can also find courses offered directly by authors like K. Tempest Bradford, Nisi Shawl, Cat Rambo, and Alethea Kontis if you follow them on Twitter or sign up for their email newsletters, which you should do, because all of these writers are awesome.
5. Professional organizations
Price: Free to ~$115/year
Joining a professional organization like SFWA, HWA, Codex, or the SCBWI will give you the opportunity to network with other professionals, enter writing contests, submit to invitation-only anthologies, find a mentor (discussed more below), and give you access to forums where professionals discuss every aspect of the business, including whether or not riff-raff like you should even be allowed to join in the first place, because what kind of place is this, a speakeasy? Heinlein would never have allowed for this kind of rabble! If you dare, there’s a list of a bazillion organizations here. Because there are so many, it can be really helpful to pay attention to what organizations writers recommend you join. Seriously, ask them, they’ll love to tell you all about which orgs have done them wrong and which are worth your time.
6. Writing contests & challenges
Price: Free
Writing contests can be a great way to get yourself noticed by the right people, even if you don’t win. Don’t ever, ever pay to enter a writing contest, however, and if the prize is voted on by the members of a forum, recognize that your work will be publicly available, meaning you’ll have given up your precious first publication rights, even if you don’t win. That you might never be paid for it. I usually find out about writing contests randomly because I’m friends with lots of writers on Twitter and Facebook, but I’m sure there are lists of them somewhere.
7. Writing Retreats
Price: $100+ 
Have you ever dreamed of returning to the magical time when you had no responsibilities and you got to have sleepovers with your friends and geek out shamelessly about your favorite things? A writing retreat is like that, especially if you know the people you’re retreating with, and it is, indeed, quite fucking magical. Locations may vary–I’ve been to retreats at convents, cabins in the Hocking Hills, and peoples’ houses. Some retreats may have guest speakers, and others may have strictly-enforced writing time, and still others are basically just a chance to drink sake and talk shop with other equally frustrated and hopeful writers. It’s a rejuvenating experience, and you might even get some writing done, or at least find the motivation to keep going when you were about to give up on writing, burn your typewriter, and take up yak farming. If you can’t find any writing retreats near you, then start one! Recruit some writers and rent an AirBNB for a few nights. 
8. A Mentor or Coach
Price: varies
Mentors and coaches provide writers with targeted critique, guidance, and (I’m assuming) unlimited 3 am pep-talks. Okay, probably not that last thing. But still, they can be invaluable resources for new and intermediate writers alike. There are lots and lots of pro writers out there willing to provide mentorship and coaching–but remember, for many of them, writing is a business. Time they take out of their busy schedule to coach you is time they’re not writing, so they may charge for coaching or mentoring. The nice thing about getting free mentoring (which you may be able to get through a professional organization like the HWA) is that it’s free. The nice thing about paying for coaching is that now you’re a client, so you can get an even more dedicated level of professional guidance. Lots of authors post about their mentoring or coaching opportunities on their blogs, email newsletters, and–you guessed it–Twitter. Additionally, Lucy Snyder has created a helpful list on Facebook. It’s by no means comprehensive but, it’s certainly a starting place. You may also be able to find resources through the various professional organizations. Some writers and coaches (like Lucy) now offer their services through Patreon, in smaller monthly chunks. 
9. An Editor 
Price: varies
BUT SARAH, I hear you gallumphing, ALL THESE SUGGESTIONS ARE FOR PEOPLE WHO WANT TO BE TRADITIONALLY PUBLISHED. I WANT TO SELF-PUBLISH. Okay, stop shouting! That’s fine. Then you need to hire an editor. Developmental editors will edit your manuscript for plot, characterization, consistency, and just good writing. Copy editors will edit for typos, spelling, and grammatical errors. You’ll pay more for a good developmental edit, because it’s considerably more work, but you need both. This service may seem expensive, once you’re looking at the cost for an entire novel manuscript, but it was your choice to write a 400,000 word tome that would make George RR Martin proud, so now you have to pay the piper. The alternative is that your novel will simply be added to the garbage pile of forgettable self-published novels consumers increasingly ignore. These days, some authors are paying editors to fix their work before they submit it to major publishers, so this can really give you an edge over the competition, even if you’re looking to go the traditional route. 
10. Twitter
Price: free (unless we’re talking about the emotional toll)
It doesn’t have to be Twitter, but I highly recommend getting on some kind of social media and following your favorite authors, editors, and agents. You never have to tweet or retweet anything if you don’t want to, but a lot of industry chatter happens on Twitter, and you’d be amazed what you can learn–and what opportunities you’ll find–just from keeping your ear to the ground. Facebook is most useful for groups where editors post the latest paying deadlines that have open submissions for your preferred genre. Social media is also great for fueling paranoia and anxiety and driving you into a cataleptic state from sheer mental overload, so set a timer on your phone or something so you won’t just get sucked in for hours and forget to eat, okay? All things in moderation. 
11. Good old books
Price: free, if you have a good library
There are many, many books about the craft of writing. Some of the ones recommended to me by other successful writers: Stephen King’s On Writing, Jack M. Bickman’s Scene & Structure, Noah Lukeman’s The First Five Pages, Samuel R. Delaney’s About WritingWriting the Other by Nisi Shawl and Cynthia Ward, and Donald Maass’s Writing the Breakout Novel. You can also search Amazon or Goodreads for top-rated writing books, visit your local independent bookstore, or, once again, ask your favorite authors for recommendations. If there’s one thing authors like to talk about more than their current project, it’s books, especially ones that have influenced them greatly. 
12. Podcasts
Living in the future is magical, isn’t it? You can now have your favorite authors beamed straight into your ear-holes whenever you want, offering writing advice, author interviews, book reviews, and more. I highly recommend the podcasts Writing Excuses and Speculate! (especially their author interview episodes; the one with Tim Powers is amazing!) and I’ve also heard good things about This Is Horror.
I hope you found this list helpful. If you have anything to add or I’ve inspired you to take up yak-shaving, leave a comment, okay? Comments feed the ego beast that lives in my basement. ❤

 

THE MOST EXCITING UPDATE!

I’m thrilled to announce my first short story collection, Dead Girls Don’t Loveand my first novella, An Ideal Vessel, are available in ebook and paperback! *insert muppet flail* (If you back my Patreon, please look at the latest post for instructions to obtain discount copies of each.) For those who like to read samples before you buy, you can find stories from the collection online here, here, and here. And there’s a portion of the novella on my blog here. Check out the gorgeous covers by Luke Spooner below. They made me cry actual tears when I saw them for the first time, and hopefully you can see why.

If you buy copies and read them, please please please leave reviews on Amazon and Goodreads. I’m an indy author with a small publisher. We have virtually no budget for marketing, which means I need your help! If you can’t buy copies or leave reviews, please post about the books on social media. I need your support if anyone is going to see these books. I appreciate whatever help you can give!

It has been a dream come true for me to see my stories finally published in a collection. I now have books! Books I can hand people with my name on the covers that contain my writing! I can’t tell you how amazing that feels. Thank you for supporting me along the way! I couldn’t have gotten here without the support of my friends and readers.

International Steampunk Symposium Schedule (and more!)

Next weekend will find me at the International Steampunk Symposium! I haven’t received an official schedule, but here’s where I think I’ll be presenting:

Friday:

6:00 Lit Track Reading Hour (Salon C)

Saturday:

5:00 Envisioning a Better Steam Society Revisited (Patriot North)

Sunday

11:00 Fiction and Faith (Salon C)

I hope to see you there!

In other news, I posted sneak peaks of my book covers on my Patreon, which you can view for only $1.00! My first short fiction collection and a novella should be dropping next month, just in time for PenguiCon, and I couldn’t possibly be more excited. More news on that when they go live!

ConFusion panel schedule

I’ll be at ConFusion in Detroit this coming weekend! All my panels are packed onto Saturday, which is great. Sadly, I’m not on any literary panels, but it seemed like they were having a harder time finding people for the general geek culture panels than they were for the literary ones, so since I volunteered for both, they probably put me where they needed panelists the most! Here’s where you can find me:

Parenting in the 21st Century

10am Saturday: Saugatuck

Parenting has always been a challenge, but is it more challenging these days? Are “the kids” no longer sufficiently respectful of one’s lawn?  And what is it with the YouTubes and the Twitters? Are these new problems, or just the same problems other generations of parents faced, dressed in new clothes?

That’s Not My Star Wars!

11am Saturday: Leelanaw

At one point, it appeared most of the world agreed on the canon-destroying awfulness of the Star Wars prequel films, and their unholy avatar Jar Jar Binks. But a new generation of Star Wars is taking hold, and not everyone is pleased with the direction that’s going, either. Where do we draw our mental lines, and why?

The Do’s and Don’ts of Fandom

1pm Saturday: Interlochen

Supporting one another is always important, especially in small communities. What is the best way to support others? How do we keep ourselves from hurting other fandoms

Reading: Dyrk Ashton, Tracy Townsend, Sarah Hans

5pm Saturday: Leelanaw

So…will I see you there?

2017 Sucked But Somehow Was Also Great

As the title implies, 2017 was a flaming bag of hot smelly dog turds for a lot of reasons, mainly political. Oddly enough for me, however, it was actually a pretty great year on a personal level. Let’s do a point-by-point rundown:

  • The Kickstarter for Steampunk Universe funded and backers received their ebooks
  • I started a Patreon where you can read my stories for just $1 a month
  • I entered and was a finalist in the Green Ronin Lost Citadel contest
  • I had a great time creating my first roleplaying game supplement
  • One of my reprints got great reviews in a book called Memento Mori
  • I wrote my first collaborative story with the amazing Maurice Broaddus, which will be appearing in print in 2018
  • I sold 3 or 4 other reprints that will be appearing in 2018
  • I started a really kickass D&D group
  • I got a job I love, teaching eighth grade
  • I visited Toronto to see the At Home With Monsters Exhibit

Big shout-out to ADHD medication, which I started in January 2017, and without which this list of accomplishments probably wouldn’t exist.

Of course, none of these things involved Getting A Novel Published, which has been my focus all year. But I am halfway through writing my young adult horror novel, and I’ve gotten some excellent feedback from pros I really respect, so I will finish it this year. It’s hard, when you have ADHD, to keep your eye on the prize where long projects are concerned. I’m constantly tempted to do other things, because switching is easier than seeing it through. But I’m going to finish writing this YA novel, and then I’m going to go back and do some edits to my first novel, and then I’m going to start submitting them both to agents and publishers.  Here’s to laser-like focus in 2018.

What are your plans for 2018, dear friends?

Motor City Steam Con Schedule

I’m crazy excited about Motor City Steam Con later this month! Here’s where I’ll be:

The Steampunk Genre, Friday 2:00-3:00

Writing for Young Adults, Saturday 1:30-2:30

Fiction Reading, Saturday 4:00-5:00

Eatin’ Mummies and other Strange Victorian Fads, Sunday 10:00-11:00

The Art of the Short Story, Sunday 12:00-1:00

I highlighted the fiction reading, because obviously that’s what I most want people to attend. I love reading my fiction (and other peoples’ fiction, and nonfiction, and fortune cookies, and grocery lists) aloud, but that’s hard to do without an audience, so please attend if you can. Maybe I’ll give away a book!

My besties with the Airship Archon will also be doing the following panels, and I may sit in on one or more:

Lie Back and Think of England, Saturday 7:00-8:00

My Favorite Apocalypse, Sunday 10:00-11:00

Prop & Costume Alchemy, Sunday 11:00-12:00

These times are subject to change, so be sure to check the final schedule on the website (when it goes live) so you won’t miss any of the fun. I can’t wait to see everyone!

 

 

 

Making Some Changes

Conveniently, this post comes at the end of 2016, but I promise you, that’s coincidence. This is NOT a New Year’s Resolution Post. For real! This is a post I’ve not had time to write for two months. Also, I’m a teacher now, so the end of the year comes in June. December is a reality break, not an end or a beginning.

Anyway, a lot of things changed for me in the last few years. The last year has been especially full of super serious life changes, and I’ve done a lot of contemplating how to deal with it all. I finished getting my license in Special Education 2.5 years ago and I’ve been teaching ever since. My first job was pretty laid back–adult students and only on the clock four days a week (and let me tell you, I miss that schedule sometimes, even if they did pay me a pittance). I only worked about 36 hours a week, so I had lots of time for writing, and with every Friday off, conventions were a breeze. I continued to attend 8-10 conventions a year, and got a lot of writing done in my off time.

But I didn’t get to teach in that job, as great as it was in other ways, so ultimately I left to pursue a position at a school where I could do the thing. I don’t want to say that switching schools was a mistake–more on that in a minute–but the second school was not a good fit for me. It made me question whether I should be a teacher. Hell, it made me question whether I should be a person. I felt inadequate in every way. I started having weekly panic attacks. I noticed that I was more exhausted than everyone else, exhausted all the time, down to my soul, the kind of exhaustion that made me feel like I’d never stop being tired. I’d been fatigued before but never like this.

The upshot is that I went to a psychologist and got a new diagnosis: ADHD. I was skeptical until I talked to friends who have it (which, as it turns out, is like, most of my friend circle? Because of course it is) and read a book about how untreated, undiagnosed ADHD can manifest in adults. Once I saw how highly I rated on both the inattentive and hyperactive scales, I thought, well shit. And when the psychologist explained it to me–ADHD is an inability of the brain to prioritize and control impulses–I thought, well double shit, that describes me completely. I cried in his office. Not because I’m sad, but because I’m relieved. There’s a reason I’m like this. It’s not my fault, and now I can finally do something about it, something that’s more than just treating the symptoms.

I also got a new job. And this is why I don’t regret Job #2, even though I was miserable there and my boss made me cry more than once and I thought about jumping out a window every day. Because without Job #2, I wouldn’t have gotten Job #3. And this job, you guys. I love this job. I love the school where I teach. I teach in a beautiful building with amazing coworkers and supportive administrators and the kids are tough but that’s why I love them. Because nothing worth doing is ever easy.

This post is getting long. Still with me? Okay. You get a gold star if you’re still reading. I’m getting to the point.

I love my job now, but holy cow the long hours. This is a for real teaching job. I go in at 7:30 and I’m lucky if I leave by 5:30. I usually work six days a week. For the first two months, I was working every waking moment. They changed my job responsibilities, so now my schedule has gone from 80 hours a week to about 60, which is an improvement, but that’s still a lot. I barely see my friends and family. I don’t get much writing (or editing) done. I have a panic attack every Sunday, like clockwork, as Monday looms.

The point is this: my life has changed, so now some other things need to change. My time is suddenly very, very precious. I still want to be a professional novelist,  as I always have, and my focus needs to be like a laser instead of scattershot to make that happen. Here are the changes I’m implementing:

  • Fewer conventions. I used to enjoy going to small conventions where I barely break even on book sales, but now I find them really stressful. If I attend a convention, it needs to be one where I can network and/or benefit my craft.
  • More writing retreats. If I’m going away for a weekend, it needs to have purpose. I need to get shit done, especially if I’m taking a day off work. Retreats help me do that. Plus, they’re relaxing AF.
  • No more short stories. My focus can only be in one place right now, and that needs to be this novel. I’m going to finish the collaboration I’m currently working on, and then I’m done with short stories until I have a finished novel in my hands. I’ll continue to submit works I’ve already written, but I won’t be writing any new shorts.
  • No more editing. I’ll complete Steampunk Universe and then that’s going to be it, maybe forever. If you want to know all the reasons, buy me a drink sometime and I’ll tell you all about why I don’t really want to do it anymore.
  • Medication. For ADHD, specifically. Hopefully soon I’ll be less of an anxious wreck and better able to get long projects finished because I won’t get inexplicably bored after writing the outline.

Thus, for a while, at least, I’ll be turning down invitations to conventions (as a panelist) and short story anthologies (that pay less than pro rates). I don’t want to turn them down. It kills me to say No to anything, because some part of me still feels, after 5+ years, that I’m still a beginner in this writing game and I shouldn’t turn down any opportunity. But things have changed for me, and now I have to turn down anything that’s not going to get me from Point A to Point B. I don’t think I’m too fancy for your anthology that pays $50/story or your convention that has 300 attendees. I just can’t afford to take detours from the main route anymore, no matter how much I may want to.

Onwards and upwards in 2017. Here’s to a finished Young Adult Horror novel. I leave you with a picture of my dog, Princess Sophia McSnarfles, aka Tiny Bites, who I adopted in September, and who is pretty much the best dog ever and kept 2016 from being a total shitshow. Thanks for reading this far. In the comments, tell me about your goals for 2017.

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Eldritch Embraces and other news

Eldritch EmbracesI’ve been so busy with my day job, I haven’t had time to tell you that Eldritch Embraces is out! If you missed the crowdfunding campaign, now is your chance to get a collection of Lovecraftian romance that features a story by yours truly. I promise there are no tentacles in my story. Check out that awesome cover!

In other news, I’m proud to announce that Tade Thompson’s story from Steampunk World is available for your listening pleasure on the prestigious Escape Pod podcast. Please give it a listen and tell the author how much you loved it.

Speaking of anthologies, here’s your reminder that you have less than two months remaining to get me a story for Steampunk Universe. The revised Call for Submissions is here. If you’d like to know why the Call was revised, you can read about that on my publisher’s blog, here.

Now that the school year is drawing to a close, things are calming down at the day job and I have some fun blog posts planned. So stay tuned for Hopefully More Content! LOL.

Happy reading and writing! 🙂